Are you listening?!

 JUST AN EAR!

We have two ears and one mouth for a significant reason. This reason can be best understood in the words of EPICTETUS; We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.

 

SIGMUND FREUD was a great psychologist. He treated patients with mental problems. His name shines brightest in the field of psychology. Whenever a patient came to him for treatment or any sort of therapy, he used to listen to them very patiently for long hours. Freud had some students, in future they also became extraordinary psychiatrists, were astonished on this behavior of Frued. The students perspective was that ; how can you listen to people for such long hours as long as ten hours , we here get tired of thus within an hour or so! This question was thrown at Freud once by one of his students , he asked - Sir , we get tired of listening to the patient within three hours but you enjoy their talks as long as for ten hours. What is the secret behind this?

Freud answered this question with a smile on his face. He said- Who listens? Shocked with the answer the student asked with feeble voice- What ? Then how do you treat them? He said , their inside pressure comes out through their mouth. Listening to them without any halt is the treatment for their only disease. They need counselling, they just need an ear to listen to them! He said again- They do not want to listen from them they just want you to listen to them! 

 

In today's time the biggest problem is of 'ear'. People have mouth that works quiet well ,but they do not have ear to listen to the people traumatised by mental issues, without being judgmental. They do not need counselling instead they need "kanselling(kan;ear)". Through "kanselling" patients believe that someone is listening to them and they pour out all insecurities and pressures they have, leading them to relax and have a free mind. 

Giving just an ear can make a lot of difference in someone's life. It is well said by:-

 

Sally A Bayan 

 In 

Ears

They're very near the brain

they're on both sides of the face;

not too far below,  throbs the heart...

these vital gifts were given to us, so we

may hear...be able to grasp what's being

said......especially, when our children are

the ones talking, speaking about school,

their fears...their dreams and goals...what

interests them...we must encourage them...

and even when they scare us...when we can't,

don't understand their ways, because they

don't agree with ours.....kindly pay attention,

hear them out...their voices, their reasons,

not just what we want to hear from them...

we drive them away from us...by imposing

our own choices on them....let us be their

guides, their friends...give them space, to

find themselves...mold their own identities...

why force our children to be Einsteins,

when they're meant to be....Shakespeares?

Sally

Copyright Rosalia Rosario A. Bayan

January 14, 2020

 My sincere request to those reading this, please listen to those who are in distress. All they need is an EAR!!